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My name is: Michelle, but most people call me Dark online.

My gender-pronouns are: They/them/their.

I am: 27 years old, a feminist, an atheist, an omnivore, and an ISFJ.

The Feminist: Intersectional, body positive, pro-choice, and sex positive.

My privileged identities include: Female assigned at birth (FAAB trans* privilege), white, able-bodied, allistic (?), and dyadic.

My non-privileged/oppressed identities include: Genderfluid, fat, Gray-A, neuroatypical, and queer.

I have: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Dermatophagia, Dermatillomania, and Dyscalculia.

I like: Pets & animals, animal welfare, pet care & pet care education, ~*SCIENCE!*~, anatomy & physiology, roleplaying, anime/manga, computer & video games, rock & metal music.

Hello.

 

Guys. Don’t tell other trans* people how to deal with their oppressors. If you don’t want to make or reblog jokes about cis people and their fuckery, that’s your choice. You’re not obligated to. But for some trans* people, this is a way of venting and reclaiming. So mind your own on this one.

fuckyeahfeminists:

doctorinthepolicebox:

fuckyeahfeminists:

"The issue is not abortion. The issue is whether women can make up their own mind instead of some right-wing pastor, some right-wing politician telling them what to do." - Howard Dean
*Noting that it isn’t just women who need and seek abortions

"It isn’t just women who need and seek abortions"? What? Of course it fucking is! Unless you can point out a man who’s gotten pregnant…

Yes. There is a number of men who have gotten pregnant. 
Start educating yourself here: Not Everyone Who Has an Abortion Is a Woman - How to Frame the Abortion Rights Issue

fuckyeahfeminists:

doctorinthepolicebox:

fuckyeahfeminists:

"The issue is not abortion. The issue is whether women can make up their own mind instead of some right-wing pastor, some right-wing politician telling them what to do." - Howard Dean

*Noting that it isn’t just women who need and seek abortions

"It isn’t just women who need and seek abortions"? What? Of course it fucking is! Unless you can point out a man who’s gotten pregnant…

Yes. There is a number of men who have gotten pregnant. 

Start educating yourself here: Not Everyone Who Has an Abortion Is a Woman - How to Frame the Abortion Rights Issue

The Not-so-Cliché-world of W.: Dear Cis Feminists

world-of-whit:

Would you please stop toting around vaginas like they’re some kind of crucifix protecting you from the patriarchy? 

Your insistence on all things vagina in feminist spaces actively erases, marginalizes, and oppresses not only women with other genital configurations, but also non-binaries and men. 

What I mean to say is that while vaginas are fucking important, awesome, and do face a very distinct oppression; your devotion to the vagina when not talking about that oppression actively oppresses other people. 

So yes, have a knitted vagina, have a giant papier-mâché vagina, have cuntcakes, have “I <3 vagina” shirts, take pride in your own vagina; but just know this: Women with other genital configurations exist and you need to not erase them. 

How to be a safe space for trans* people

s-t-r-a-p:

  1. Never assume someone’s pronouns: Use neutral terms until you are told, or are able to ask for, someone’s pronouns. This applies to everyone — not just people you suspect are transgender or whose gender you are unsure of based on voice or appearance. You should be unsure of everyone’s pronouns until you know what to use, because not everyone can present as they’d like, or feels it necessary to present in a particular way for their pronoun.
  2. Avoid gendered language when talking to individuals: You might think slang like calling everyone “dude” or “girl” is playful and inoffensive, but many people feel uncomfortable with that language because it labels them with a gender they are not, or because it’s overly familiar. In addition, calling someone you perceive to be a woman pet names like “sweetie” can be  very condescending. Calling a stranger “boy” has racist connotations if they are a person of color. This varies by region, but unless you know someone and how they would like to be referred to, don’t say it.
  3. Particularly avoid addressing strangers by “sir” or “miss: Saying “sir” or “miss” to be polite can easily misgender someone; “excuse me”, plus their name if you know it, can serve the same purpose in most situations. If you are going to be talking to that person longer, ask their pronoun.
  4. Use gender neutral language when talking to groups: Saying “ladies and gentlemen” is a start, but not everyone is a lady or a gentleman. Saying “everyone”, or referring to the audience by their roles (student, employee, parent, etc.) can substitute.
  5. If you do misgender someone, be graceful about it: Apologize briefly, use the correct pronoun, and continue. Don’t be long-winded, because that can draw attention to the mistake and rub it in. Don’t find excuses or argue.
  6. Allow people to use the bathroom they are comfortable with: You cannot tell somebody’s gender just by looking at them, and even if they identify as a particular gender, they may feel uneasy using that gender’s bathroom.
  7. Also have a gender neutral bathroomavailable for everyone’s use: Neutral bathrooms take the stress out of wondering if you are going to be harassed for taking care of a basic bodily function. But in order to be truly neutral, these bathrooms shouldn’t be segregated as “the transgender bathroom”. They should be freely available to anyone who needs them.
  8. Don’t allow sexist, transphobic, or homophobic jokes and comments: People may not mean these comments to be offensive, but they still hurt and make people feel like outsiders. Keep the space respectful of all genders and ways of presenting.
  9. Educate all people in the space on safe space rules: If you designate your space as safe, and then a guard starts telling someone they are in the wrong bathroom, or people are making rude comments about what they presume is in someone’s pants, your space is not safe for trans* people.

Does anyone have other rules, or comments to add?

Amy Dentata: veronicadire: amydentata: rumplestiltsqueer said: funny how no one...

amydentata:

veronicadire:

amydentata:

rumplestiltsqueer said: funny how no one ever makes claims about trans men having an unfair advantage in sports where lower body strength is importa- oh, right, transmisogyny

Nobody cares about stamina, it’s all about MANLY STRENGTH BABY (or in this case, ASSUMED MANLY STRENGTH BABY). Go masculinity. Rah rah rah.

Oh, right, and scary, scary penises.

What is infuriating is this: it is pretty clear to me that trans women athletes are at a disadvantage compared to their cis opponents — and certainly at the higher levels of competition.

Okay, so this is taking it as a given that their cis competitors are somehow doping, in some way, to get a major T boost. They’re supplementing somehow. The trans woman is doing the opposite. Regarding whatever body mass she may have built up as a man, look, this is so obvious it pains me to type it: in sports where body mass matters, they weigh you. Fallon Fox has to cut and make weight, just like every other fighter.

I mean, it is almost as if the critics don’t want to understand.

I think we just solved this mystery, Scoob.

So… would it be better to talk to my gyno or my PCP if I’m looking to get my chest reduced? Would one or the other be better?

taleth:

Do Not Poke the Tiger: autumn-fhtagn: “In examining reports of hate crimes against…

autumn-fhtagn:

“In examining reports of hate crimes against transgender people, researchers found that 98% of all “transgender” violence was perpetrated specifically against people in the male-to-female spectrum[1]; of the 38 murders of transgender people reported internationally in 2003, 70% were women of color.[2][x]

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And if we inferred about the race distinction in violence against CAFAB trans people, based on the 70/30 rate in CAMAB trans people, it would look like this:

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But the only ones I see people listening to about anti-trans violence are CAFAB trans people.

(1) Currah, P., & Minter, S. (2000). Transgender equality: A handbook for activists and policymakers. New York, NY: National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and The National Center for Lesbian Rights.
(2) Goldberg, J. M. & White, C. (2004). Expanding our understanding of gendered violence: Violence against trans people and loved ones. Aware: The Newsletter of the BC Institute Against Family Violence, 11, 21-25.

(Source: marxvx)

Using anything other than a person’s pronouns when talking about them is a seriously shitty thing to do no matter how much you hate them.

Just a reminder.